I offer thoughtful attention to your needs and struggles so that we can better understand the patterns that keep you feeling stuck with one another

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Stuck in the same argument… again?

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle with your partner, repeating the same argument over and over but not knowing how to stop? An argument can feel like a runaway train that seems to take on a force of its own; you find yourselves stuck on points that are far from where the conversation started. As this pattern continues, it can start to feel like you and your partner are living two different realities. Differences between you and your partner that at one time drew you together now feel painful and you feel lonely in your own home, like your closest person doesn’t understand you at all. You may even start to fear you’re incompatible.

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How Couples Therapy Can Help

I help couples slow down and untangle these cycles so that partners can feel understood and heard by one another again. I recognize that people often get stuck in an argumentative pattern together because there is something incredibly important partners want each other to hear that is being missed.

By shifting the language, I help couples talk to each other in new and healing ways. I do this with a lens of compassion and acceptance, which allows both partners to finally feel seen and validated. In this way, arguments become shorter, partners start to feel closeness and warmth again, and home starts feeling more welcoming and safe.

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My Therapeutic Approach

I mainly work from an Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) perspective, an empirically-supported treatment that goes beyond stopping arguments and helps couples create secure and long-lasting connections. Within this model, I utilize theories of attachment so that couples can better understand and express their relational needs with clarity and trust.

What Will We Talk About in Couples Therapy?

We will come to understand the intricate characteristics of your relationship with thoughtfulness and depth. In doing this, we may focus on:

  • Conflict resolution

  • Effective communication

  • Vulnerability in emotions

  • Relationships in childhood and adult life

  • Past traumas and attachment injuries

  • Your perceptions of yourself, others, and the world

  • Unresolved stuck points in your relationship

  • Expectations and desires around sexuality

  • Establishing trust and safety

  • Managing personal anxiety and stress

PRICING

Virtual session: $270

I am an out-of-network provider which means I do not take insurance directly. You are responsible for the full fee upfront and then I can send you a document to submit to your insurance company for reimbursement.

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